Pulling information

My son is involved in chess club one day a week and a member at large for student council which requires another day of the week. He is also in what's called a boys club where he gets to bond with other students who have disabilities but are more excepting.

On Friday he came home from school and sits down to read (one of his usual things when he's not doing homework) and as I sit at the table with him he picks up something and slams it on the table. "Here" he says. So I take a peak inside to find a whole mess of toiletries. I look at him as ask where he got them. Mrs. So in so he says. So now I have to ask a mess load of questions to get to the bottom of it. At one point I think he got confused and took it. Not the case. I'm still not sure but what I think happened was this, During student council all the kids were making holiday bags for low income students and their families. After he completed his he left it there and went home. The school must have had some extra and decided to give them to the kids in the boys group. At least that's what I'm hoping and its not that he's the smelly kid because I take great measures to for him not to be.

Because of his autism simple things such as this are not easily conveyed and what should have only taken maybe 4 minutes turned into 15. Such is our life trying to put all the puzzle pieces together and make sense of it all. He has to do it on a regular basis so its only fair I do it once and a while.

Round and round

A glimpse into my life... I am a mother of three, a 14 year old autistic son and 2 girls ages 10 and 7. We live in a semi rural part of the east coast and love our area. With that being said, this is a blog created for mothers  of Autistic children who have ever just had to shake their heads and walk away. If you have an autistic child then you know what I'm talking about. In the past 11 years I have had several times like that. Some days I want to scream but most days I try to relate and teach him how to live in a non-autistic world because lets face it, our children need so much more support than the "average" child. Our children need extra patience, love, understanding and most of all empathy even though they don't understand it themselves. We as mothers feel that we are constantly trying to fix, excuse and control how our children respond and behave in public and its exhausting. 

My son is now 14 and bless his heart an A-B student in a regular high school and thriving. It has been a long road to get to where he is now but I wouldn't give it up because I am who I am today because of him. My present goal is to give my son scenarios and  hypothetical situations for him to think through, sort of like little puzzles, to help him in the future. While he is 14 on the outside, he's only about 8 on the inside. Meaning that socially and emotionally he is stunted to about half of his numerical age. This makes it hard to judge what is "age Appropriate" and what is not, making life even more confusing for all living it. Can I get an "Amen"? So please join me as I begin to blog about our past and future adventures Living and Loving in an Autistic World.